In my previous post, I wrote about Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin.
Truth be told, I found April Cassidy, The Peaceful Wife's Blog from Googling 'Fascinating Womanhood' in the world wide web.
|Back in my anchoring days - 2012|
A net search for FW led to a related search option by Google of The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I read its sample chapter and I was excited by it! This was what I wanted to do at this season of my life! I wanted to give up control! I wanted to surrender! I wanted to be a surrendered wife!
I got so excited over this find that I wrote my husband a stick-on note regarding it. I wanted him to find me Laura Doyle's book. At that time, I still was in an extremely quiet phase when I dared not speak nor tell my husband about anything that was happening to my heart, lest I hurt him with my words. This was the time when I realized my great disrespect to him and to God, and when God showed me my true-blue sinful self. I was aghast at the enormity of my sins, with pride as the front-runner.
|April, 'The Peaceful Wife' and Greg, 'The Respected Husband'|
I couldn't believe my eyes! April was talking about her life, but I felt as though, I could have written it myself!
I then copy-pasted and printed out all posts that hit a nerve, like:
- What Is Disrespectful to Husbands
- Biblical Submission
- I'm The Spiritually Mature One in This Marriage!
- Signs That Your Husband is Feeling Disrespected and Unloved
I was reading and copy-pasting and printing every day.
|Yellow-marked Bible Verses|
I am Catholic and I am not used to reading the Bible, I am ashamed to admit. I hear about God's Word at mass and we use it for worship, but as an instruction to life? I was too intimidated by it to read it lest I misunderstood it, and so I didn't.
I was greatly encouraged by April's humble yet wide knowledge of the Bible and so, when I started Bible-reading, I just couldn't stop! I now regret having missed a HUGE part of my Catholic Christian life by NOT opening its wonderful pages! (I did so rarely.) It is not TOO LATE to begin though. I encourage more Catholic wives to start reading God's Word. It is a wealth of inspiration and instruction. Read it with an open heart and mind, pray to the Holy Spirit for guidance and understanding, and be filled with the Word of Life. It really quenches one's spiritual thirst.
After being a "stalker" of April (LOL!) for days, I found the courage to email her.
Here's an excerpt of the correspondence :
It's only now that I have realized my pride and arrogance and selfishness that I've decided with God's Help to give up my career for my husband and my four children. I get in the way of my husband's leadership. H*ll, I get in my own way!
|The pic I sent April|
God. Is. Amazing.
What started as a genuine desire to make our marriage better with Fascinating Womanhood, was used by God to lead me to Peaceful Wife's blog, in order to complete and make whole what was lacking. FW for all its feminine precepts was simply too husband-directed and not Christ-centered to make any lasting changes. I dare say it can even be detrimental to the married couple's relationship, once the 'fascinating woman' considers her husband as her IDOL. Idolatry is a GREAT sin! Nobody should be Number 1 in our hearts, except for God for the Lord said:
Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'
37 At sinabi sa kaniya, Iibigin mo ang Panginoon mong Dios ng buong puso mo, at ng buong kaluluwa mo, at ng buong pagiisip mo.
|Pregnant with our 4th - Dec 31, 2012|
"When we follow the leadership of our husband and we are submissive to his wishes, there comes into our homes a SWEET SPIRIT OF PEACE AND HARMONY."
Yes, yielding to our husbands may create a sort of peaceful (temporary) setup but remember, the peace of this world is NOTHING compared to the PEACE that the Lord can give...
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
I am grateful that the Lord has been holding my hand and directing my steps even without me knowing it, all these years! From Lies Women Believe to Fascinating Womanhood to The Peaceful Wife's blog, I believe these were NOT COINCIDENCES. These were God's Incidents.
My correspondence with April is really a divine appointment. Not too early. Not too too late. Just PERFECT in God's Time. :)
1 Cor 13: 9-13
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part
|At a recent outing with our 3rd and 4th babies (Reuben & Isabelle)- Dec 30, 2013|
1 Corinto 13: 9-13
9 Sapagkat mayroon tayong bahagyang kaalaman at nanghuhula tayo nang bahagya; 10 ngunit kapag yaong ganap ay dumating, yaong bahagya ay aalisin. 11 Noong ako ay sanggol pa, nagsasalita akong gaya ng sanggol, nag-iisip na gaya ng sanggol, nangangatuwirang gaya ng sanggol; ngunit ngayong ganap na ang aking pagkatao, inalis ko na ang mga ugali ng isang sanggol. 12 Sapagkat sa kasalukuyan ay nakakakita tayo ng malabong anyo sa pamamagitan ng salaming metal, ngunit pagkatapos ay magiging mukhaan na.Sa kasalukuyan ay nakaaalam ako nang bahagya, ngunit pagkatapos ay makaaalam ako nang may katumpakan kung paanong ako ay may-katumpakang nakikilala. 13 Gayunman, ngayon ay nananatili ang pananampalataya, pag-asa, pag-ibig, ang tatlong ito; ngunit ang pinakadakila sa mga ito ay pag-ibig.
My prayer is that whatever seed the Lord implanted in our hearts out of our great LOVE for Him, will blossom and bear much good fruit, in order that God be further glorified! We love you, Lord! Amen.