|In the Control Room of the PTV OB-VAN, used for TV Coverages - 2011|
Control freaks are often perfectionists defending themselves against their own inner vulnerabilities in the belief that if they are not in total control they risk exposing themselves once more to childhood angst.
Control Freak Nikka - 2010
Such persons manipulate and pressure others to change so as to avoid having to change themselves, and use power over others to escape an inner emptiness.
When a control freak's pattern is broken, “the Controller is left with a terrible feeling of powerlessness … But feeling their pain and fear brings them back to themselves”.
In terms of personality-type theory, control freaks are very much the Type A personality, driven by the need to dominate and control.
Yikes. Wait a minute, when did Wikipedia interview me for this one?!?
I am a recovering control freak.
|Radio Control Booth, UNTV - 2012|
But, then we all know that CONTROLLING things, people and events is just an ILLUSION.
On September 2013, I quit cold turkey.
|Not a turkey, but a parrot! ;) Same avian family! - Zoo trip 2010|
At 38 years old, I can honestly say I have said NO to every opportunity to CONTROL my marriage and specifically, my husband since September 1, 2013. :) Praise God!!!
Not to say that to let go of control is to let one's life go haywire.
One still has to control some things in order to have a semblance of order.
Like, controlling the behavior among children...
|Teaching Therese's classmates how to put icing on the cookies -- 2009|
Or, controlling computer game playing...
|Therese at the young age of 4 playing Nintendo DS!|
Or, controlling sleeping habits...
|Father's Day - 2009|
If there are no methods of "control" or rules, there will be anarchy and chaos!
What we are referring to here is the type of CONTROL that seeks to lord over people and events. As though if one was not followed, the world would end.
It's the type of CONTROL that is unhealthy on all levels and that makes the CONTROLLED person resentful of his/her CONTROLLER.
I was a CONTROL FREAK for 37 years of my life.
|Controlling the Control Pad, radio booth - 2012|
When I got into the respect journey in September 2013, that was when God opened my eyes to the enormity of my pride and desire to control everything, including Him! That left me restless and lacking in peace. I felt as though the world was on my shoulders. I was always depressed, tired and afraid.
I did not know that all of those negative feelings were due to my CONTROL FREAK tendencies.
When I let go of my own will, that was when I experienced TRUE PEACE. :)
When I seeked God's Will, and His Will alone, that was when I experienced TRUE JOY. :)
When I let go of my desire to control Dong and to change him, and instead as the Lord commanded in Ephesians 5:22-33 accepted the call for us "wives to submit ourselves unto our husbands as unto the Lord", that was when I experienced TRUE FREEDOM. :)
|Super happy :D|
I am finally and truly FREE. :)""Hi everyone. I am Nikka Cleofe-Alejar. I am a recovering CONTROL-HOLIC. I have been CONTROL-FREE for 136 days, 13 hours, 50 minutes and 5 seconds (the clock is ticking!).I have let go of my will and have let God take over. I am no longer a CONTROL FREAK.
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."May we all be richly blessed! :)