|A Wedding Cake Topper of a Wife-Led Marriage|
In Filipino, "hawak sa leeg" or translated as "held by the neck/collar" or dominated.
|These are the top search keywords in my blog every single day.|
|Despite the happy faces, I was not exactly interiorly joyful or peaceful.We were still in a WLM here. - January 2011|
and obviously that was ME!!!!
But if I really "had it all" back then, why was it that I still felt so empty? :(
Why was it that I had ZERO tolerance and patience for my children by the time I got home?
Why was it that I had ZERO libido and energy for my husband when he wanted to be intimate?
Why was it that I still felt that I did not matter even though my plate was super full and my cup was overflowing?
We were NOT designed to live independently of God! That is a LIE! That is what satan would have us believe, that we can make it out on our own, apart from God.
|Oprah is probably the most respected female TV personality on the planet.|
I used to consider all her quotes as gospel truth. I still admire Oprah a lot,
but I now base my truth on THE Truth - Jesus - of the Bible.
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And so this was the First Man's curse:
And this was the First Woman's Curse:
|Lamaze birth of our third baby, Reuben. SO FREAKIN' PAINFUL!!!|
May 20, 2010
Here's another version, from the New Living Translation, just to clarify that point.
|Controlling Nikka 2011|
woman would also have the "desire" to RULE OVER MEN.
This reversal of roles and subsequent Fall of Man and Woman, began for humankind the constant POWER PLAY we have been experiencing since time immemorial. The struggle for dominance or control within marriage.
This Power Play is what has given birth to the Wife-Led Marriages and Female-Led Relationships, we know of now.
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control.
First of all, let me point out that in cases where 1) the husband is dead; or 2) the husband is severely incapacitated or disabled either physically or mentally, a wife, in these cases will have to lead her family and move independently of her husband. But in Number 2, when the husband is "just" severely physically unable to move but is of sound mind, the wife must still exercise all prudence and wisdom to still respect her husband's authority over her, despite his disabilities.
|I am happy being my husband's help meet, not|
his leader/dictator! June 2014
I personally believe a WLR and FLR can work to a certain degree, but since it is not biblical nor is it godly, it will always leave some/ a LOT of room for a lack of peace. To go against God's design for marriage is to go in rebellion against God Himself.
We can argue all we want that a husband's headship and a wife's submission is passe or "laos" and outmoded or "di na uso", but the proof is in the pudding. The most joyful, most peaceful, most orderly marriages and families are those that follow God's Order of Marriage wherein the husband as the God-ordained authority leads, and the wife as help meet, supports and follows.
* This should not be confused with a lack of equality in dignity between the husband and wife! We are equal in God's Eyes, but we are not equal in roles.
"Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped..."
|If Jesus Who is God, had no "hang-ups" over biblical subordination, why is that|
we who are but mere creatures get SO riled up over it?!?
To continue Philippians 2:5-6... with verses 7 to 8:
"...but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross."
27 Then Abraham spoke up again: “Now that I have been so bold as to speak to the Lord, though I am nothing but dust and ashes,
|Gen 2:7 "Then the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground. |
He breathed the breath of life into the man's nostrils, and the man became a living person."
that a husband-led marriage can give.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy,cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.
31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
It was when I submitted to God, then to my husband, that both he and I felt a continuing
JOY and PEACE brought about by:
2) my husband's stepping up to the plate in our marriage, because I was no longer fighting for his headship at home.
I hope and pray that those who will be led to this post after searching for "Female-Led Relationships" or "Wife-Led Marriages", will somehow be enlightened and convicted by the honest musings and witnessing of a former
The Sin of Adam was redeemed by the Blood of Christ. We don't need to follow the path of the First
So, a shoutout to all daughters of Eve... Stop leading. Start following. We do not need to live by the "curse"; that is to always want to wrestle the authority from our husbands. We are not in any way inferior to them when we allow them to take on their God-given roles as heads of the family.
In fact, it is acquiescing that role to them that we experience true freedom from turning over the reins, and accepting our God-given roles as help meets to our "Adams". What our first parents failed to do, that was to obey and to listen to God's Will for them and to fulfill their God-ordained callings, please, let us NOT REPEAT.
|We aim to have a godly marriage setup so the|
children will learn God's design for men and women. Dec 2013
May we all be richly blessed! :)