|With our first child, Therese, and just a year or so married - 2005|
To him, "Mommy" is his mother, Wowa Letty.
|Wowa Letty, Dong's very kind mother|
|Reuben, 2nd son|
|Andre, 1st son|
Doing so would cross over from being just caring to mothering to smothering, if not held in check! There is nothing more 'UNSEXY' than treating your husband as your child!
Remember it is written in the Bible that:
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.
Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is
well-pleasing to the Lord.
Respect for Authority
13 Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. 2 So anyone who rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished.
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands. For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do.
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When a wife acts like her husband's mother, she is guilty of mixing up her God-ordained role as parent to her children (over whom she has every right to correct and direct), and mis-using that parental authority over her husband, over whom, she has NO AUTHORITY correcting, leading or directing, given her God-ordained submissive role as helper or supporter, in the marriage.
3.) We turn our husband into a child.
Instead of seeing ourselves as a team with our husbands to work together to grow in Christ, we eventually look down on our husbands long enough for their sins and their “too slow at repentance” behavior and start seeing them as children or chore instead of a best friend and lover.
And worst of all, we have found this so humorous. How many comedians, websites, Facebook statuses, and Pinterest pins are being shared and quoted with remarks like
“I don’t have three children, I am married to the fourth.”
“Men are babies who stop having a mom and get a wife instead.”
“I thought I was done raising children but apparently my husband will never grow up.”
|This one is so NOT a baby. I am his "baby". ;) - 2006|
- ... not joking about her husband being 'one of her children' to others!
Any wound rather than a wound of the heart! Any spite rather than the spite of woman!
I would sooner keep house with a lion or a dragon than keep house with a spiteful wife.
A woman's spite changes her appearance and makes her face as grim as a bear's.
When her husband goes out to dinner with his neighbours, he cannot help heaving bitter sighs.
No spite can approach the spite of a woman, may a sinner's lot be hers!
Like the climbing of a sandhill for elderly feet, such is a garrulous wife for a quiet husband.
Do not be taken in by a woman's beauty, never lose your head over a woman.
Bad temper, insolence and shame hold sway where the wife supports the husband.
Low spirits, gloomy face, stricken heart: such is a spiteful wife. Slack hands and sagging knees: such is the wife who does not make her husband happy.
woman give free rein to her tongue. Do not let water find a leak, nor a spiteful
He also said something wise that should make us wives go into deep introspection:
"Women should think of who and what their husbands were before they got married to them. Were their boyfriends happy, energetic, with some spunk in their walks and postures, healthy, etc...? Then, compare that to now. Are the men unhappy, depressed, walking and moving as though hopeless, having so many sicknesses... after they got married to their wives? Maybe the wife has done something to make him that kind of pathetic man. Maybe he is who and what he is now, thanks, but no thanks, to his wife! Just think about it...."
I am glad the Lord opened up my
spiritual eyes. Otherwise, there would
be NOTHING to be joyful about. - Aug 2013
(Note: In no way am I saying that wives should be treated as children nor that they should act like children, with tantrums and childishness and all! "Babying" in this post means taking good care of their wives, the way husbands could and should, just as God had commanded for them to do.)
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.