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Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Why I Cover My Head

I practice head-covering.

It used to be that I just did it for church (with a veil), but I now do it nearly daily (with a bandanna), except on some rare occasions when I feel led to not cover my head.

Otherwise, I do it all the time.

I wrote about it early on in my journey, in the blog post entitled: 

Before I started head-covering though, I asked my husband's permission if I could wear a veil to Mass. He found nothing wrong with it, because in the past, even his own mother also wore a veil to church, as with so many others in our Catholic Christian country. Nowadays though, in church, I find myself alone (or with one or two usually very old and wheelchair-bound women) practicing this beautiful and long-lost tradition of veil-wearing.

I went a step or two further by wearing head scarves/bandannas too, outside of church. 

Why do I do this? For two BIG reasons...

- To remind myself to be humble before God and to worship Him with awe and reverence.

- To remind myself of my God-ordained role in our family, as help meet of my husband. 

The Lord convicted and converted me and made me into a new creation on September 1, 2013. Since then, I have been living by this verse and practicing biblical submission in my own marriage, with great  and amazing results that can only be attributed to God's Grace.

Ephesians 5:22-33 part:

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 
33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
April 17, 2004 - Wedding Day

Following my letting go and letting God, the Lord led me to my now mentor, friend, and sister in Christ, April Cassidy's blog, The Peaceful Wife, two weeks after I surrendered my all, to Him.

April Cassidy, The Peaceful Wife, praying with her head covered
I was convicted by The Peaceful Wife's piece on

"A Long Lost Secret of God To Strengthen Our Prayer Lives and Marriages."

In that piece, April shared in detail that wearing a head cover while praying gave her the:

"proper attitude toward my husband’s authority over me when I pray, knowing I have a symbol of his authority on my head.  It helps me assume a proper mindset in prayer, a proper mindset toward my husband, and a proper mindset toward God."

Given my very dominant and take-charge personality which in the past only led to self-righteous and prideful behavior, I felt that I needed a constant symbol of this new life in the Spirit that the Lord has blessed me with. Head-covering was the perfect reminder for me with regards to my submission and respect journey: to always be humble, to always know my place in the family, to always respect my husband and to always revere God.

This is the Bible verse that encourages women, wives especially, to have their heads covered, as a way to honor their husbands as their God-ordained earthly authorities. The last verse shows St. Paul saying, as I paraphrase it, that "if any man or woman will be contentious with this teaching, then just say that there is no such custom."  In short, "Let's not fight over it! To each his/her own conscience call."

                              1 Corinthians 11:3-16

Our firstborn, Therese

3But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the husband* is the head of his wife,* and God is the head of Christ. 4Any man who prays or prophesies with something on his head disgraces his head,

With our thirdborn, Reuben
With our secondborn, Andre

5but any woman who prays or prophesies with her head unveiled disgraces her head—it is one and the same thing as having her head shaved. 6For if a woman will not veil herself, then she should cut off her hair; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or to be shaved, she should wear a veil. 

7For a man ought not to have his head veiled, since he is the image and reflection* of God; but woman is the reflection* of man. 8Indeed, man was not made from woman, but woman from man. 9Neither was man created for the sake of woman, but woman for the sake of man. 10For this reason a woman ought to have a symbol of* authority on her head,* because of the angels.11Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man or man independent of woman. 12For just as woman came from man, so man comes through woman; but all things come from God. 13Judge for yourselves: is it proper for a woman to pray to God with her head unveiled? 
With our youngest, Isabelle

14Does not nature itself teach you that if a man wears long hair, it is degrading to him, 15but if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For her hair is given to her for a covering. 16But if anyone is disposed to be contentious—we have no such custom, nor do the churches of God.

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At church
Cooking lunch
It is my PERSONAL CONVICTION that I must keep my head veiled at Mass or covered  with a scarf, as I go about my daily chores and 
responsibilities at all times (unless circumstances dictate otherwise).

I don't aim to be legalistic on this and I don't aim to make you, dear reader, think that I am holier or more righteous because I practice head covering. No, certainly not! What I do want to encourage you on, is to pray over it and discern for yourself if by covering your head, you too would be able to revere the Lord more by practicing this wonderful and long-lost custom and also to always remind you of your own biblical role in your family, as your husband's help meet.

I do not know how long I will practice this custom, but I will continue with it for as long as I am led by the Spirit to do so. :)

May we all be richly blessed! :)


Are you convinced that you need to cover too but are too shy/ill-at-ease to do so? Check out this link. . More and more women are covering their heads in obedience to God. :)


  1. Thank you for sharing! I think a woman wearing a headcovering is a beautiful thing. Blessings

  2. Hi Nikka. Just found this beautiful blog of yours.
    I think that you and all women look great wearing bandannas on a regular basis.
    May I suggest that at least once a week, post some photographs of yourself wearing a bandanna like this post so as to encourage a lot of your readers and women to wear bandannas too and that they look nice. God Bless you and your work :)

    1. I wish I knew who you were, Anonymous, even if only by a different name! :)

      Thanks for the encouragement! Head covering has become such a beautiful symbol for me of my reverence to God and respect for my husband. Will surely post more pics. God bless you too! :)


    2. Looking forward to seeing more photos from you and your readers wearing bandannas :)

      If it were up to me, I would want my wife to wear those too on a regular basis. She just finds it hard to pair it with some of her clothes. As a prominent blogger, you definitely have street creed so I'll be sharing this post with her to encourage her to do this head covering too :)

    3. Hi again!

      I believe that if your wife practices biblical submission (Is she? :) ), that she will find your suggestion to cover her head as her way of respecting you, and she will do it. :) Praying that the Spirit will lead her to do what she feels convicted to do.

      Head covering is not a magic gesture that puts one aright with God. A wife who covers her head must feel convicted by the Spirit that doing such would revere God and honor her husband. Some Christian wives do not feel that same leaning, and that is ok! :) Only God can judge the motives of the heart, head coverings on or aside.

      God bless! :)


  3. That's a great point :)

    Hope that she will do that. Will keep on reading your blog :)

  4. Bless you for your obedience to scripture in this area. It seems the Lord is laying this on more and more seeking hearts. It just blesses me. grew up Mennonite and have watched many, many throw this practice away and wonder what God is going to make of all that. And then to see hearts newly take up this practice? I just say thank you Jesus! For me it is much easier to practice covering my head than it is to be truly submissive to my husband... but the Lord keeps helping and growing me. May I share a link to this post on my headcovering/modesty blog?

    1. Hi Joyce! :)

      Sure, my dear sister in Christ. I would love for you to link this so that others who think nothing of headcovering might give it a second or third look. :)

      I have experienced for myself that headcovering has greatly helped in two areas of my walk with Christ:

      1) I am more reverent and humble before the Lord in prayer at all times, knowing my lowly place before our Great and Sovereign God.

      2) I am more respectful towards my husband and it reminds me of how beautiful my place in the home is, as my husband's helpmeet.

      The headcover is no magic cloth, but the symbol becomes an obvious reminder to the one whose heart is convinced by the beauty of 1 Cor 11, which transforms the head cloth to a visible act of love towards God.

      God bless you, Joyce.



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