The Shocking Fact About Biblical Submission and Motherhood (The True Story of A Former Controlling Wife and How Her Disrespect of Her Husband Affected Their Children)

Me, with baby Andre - 2007

Motherhood is such a noble calling for women blessed with this priceless gift. Not everybody can bear children, nor is everybody called to married life. Each woman is uniquely called though to serve God in her own God-given capacity and purpose. 

To those of us who have been called to become mothers, we hold the highest honor of bringing forth God's children into this world. On our shoulders lie the responsibility to mold these children into godly human beings, with a heart for God.

Psalms 127:3-5
Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one's youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They will not be ashamed When they speak with their enemies in the gate.

Today's post connects 
Biblical submission and motherhood.

One would think that Biblical submission only affects the father and mother of the children, when the wife submits to her husband as unto the Lord. But, what you'd read about today would clearly show that it not only affects the dynamics of the parents, but the mother/father-children's dynamics as well.

This sister in Christ has been so generous in sharing her story, because she wants to spread the word out, that God's Design for marriage should not be delayed a minute too late, if one could help it. Of course, the Lord is never too early, never too late, but always on time because He works outside of time, but as she herself shares with us, she "hopes she (had) learned about it sooner" although she chooses "not to lament about it" because that is "not the kind of attitude God would expect of somebody who has been forgiven much".

That sister in Christ is Eliza, 
and this is her story.

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HER CONVICTION:

I have been so blessed and wish I could find a way to encourage everyone to stay focused on working towards being godly, respectful, loving help meets to our husbands. Sadly, I have been a Christian for a very long time but I have never been in the company of other Christian women who spoke of (much less practiced) Biblical submission and respect towards their husbands. I was taught early in my Christian walk about equality in marriage rather than submission. Even though I have always LOVED my husband, I did not understand respect and what the Bible says about it. I was deceived and blind to this truth even though I was diligent about Bible study. Satan blinded me. I worked so hard at loving my husband and pleasing him, and could never understand why our marriage wasn’t better. One day, I was crying out to God for help and... 

He just spoke one word to me ~ “Help Meet.” 

It was a very amazing experience to have the Holy Spirit speak this word to me. I knew the Lord was giving me His divine direction, so I immediately went online and Googled it. I ended up buying the book, “Created to be His Help Meet” by Debi Pearl. (PWP Note: Please read my critique of this highly controversial book here.) When I received it, I devoured it. I was under SO much conviction! I couldn’t understand how I could have been so blind. God totally opened my eyes and convicted me. I had so much to repent of. It was a very, very humbling experience BUT it was a very necessary step for God to allow me to be so humbled by opening my eyes to my sin. The Lord used that book to truly show me His will and plan for me as a Christian wife. I was so excited to start yielding to God to change me. It was a very painful time but obviously very healing. “Godly sorrow worketh repentance…” (2 Cor 7:10)

I am at the place in this journey where my husband has totally responded to my submission and respect and I now have a truly wonderful marriage. We are both growing together in our walks and the Lord has truly given us an amazing marriage. 

I have experienced such peace in my life. I have never had this kind of peace until I finally submitted to God’s plan for me as a help meet to my husband. 

All the years I was married and not being submissive and respectful, I never had peace. Now, I truly have the peace of God that passeth all understanding. I will never turn back after experiencing this kind of peace. I know now that I am in a place of protection (under my husband’s headship) and that I am in a very safe place because I am in God’s perfect will for my life. I feel so protected and safe. I feel so loved and cared for. I feel so blessed. I love to minister to my husband’s needs, and he loves to minister to mine. God has made us a great team. My husband is very sensitive to my needs and is very affectionate towards me. He loves to be near me and with me and I also feel the same. Marriage can be such a blessing or so painful. I can truly say that when we do things God’s way, He will honor that and BLESS. Sometimes it takes time, but it is well worth the wait!! One thing I know for sure is that none of us will ever regret being obedient to God! 

HELP MEET:

At a certain point in my marriage, I cried out to God for help, and He spoke one word to me. “Help Meet.”

I immediately went to the computer and Googled this. Several books came up, so I prayed as to which one the Lord wanted me to read. I felt led to buy the book, “Created to be His Help Meet,” by Debi Pearl. What I read in this book truly opened my eyes. I repented and began seeking the Lord for change – in ME.

One of the chapters really helped me to understand a major point I was missing about men in general. I always thought all men should basically be the same. Debi Pearl taught that God actually made three types of men. Although men are very similar, they are also created to be different. She explains that God made each male to express one side of His triad nature. She said that no single man completely expresses the well-rounded image of God, and that if a man were all three types at the same time, he would be the perfect man. But that is not possible because only Jesus Christ was and is truly “perfect.”

She goes on to explain that most men are a little bit of all three, but tend to be dominant on one. I realized it was time for me to stop trying to make my husband change to become the perfect man!

 I wanted him to have the freedom and liberty to become the man that God created him to be! I stopped trying to change him. :) 

I began to see God move in mighty ways as I purposed to allow my husband to be free to be himself rather than keep him in bondage to my image of what I thought he should be. I prayed for wisdom to understand who my man was and the Lord taught me a lot about who He created him to be as I read about these three different types of men.

I think it is imperative that we as wives understand which of the three God created our husbands to be. We cannot compare our husbands to other men because they may, in fact, be one of the other types of men. We need to learn who they are so we can bless them by encouraging them to just become the best they can be as who God created them to be! Debi says, “Wisdom is knowing what you ‘bought’ when you married that man, and learning to adapt to him as he is, not as you want him to be.”

The three different types of men are:

- Mr. Command Man

- Mr. Visionary

- Mr. Steady

Knowing which of the three my husband is has truly transformed the way we relate because I understand who God created him to be and I can accept and embrace that!! I no longer feel tempted nor do I even desire to see my man be something he can’t possibly be. It really has been life-changing information. I know this book – especially this chapter on the three different types of men – would greatly aid everyone in understanding who their man is (and why!!)

HER MARRIAGE:

I will be married 31 years this May. I have raised 5 children with my husband. We are at the time of our lives where whether we have grown closer together or farther apart has come upon us. If it wasn’t for the Lord opening my eyes to Biblical Submission and Respect…       I don’t know what would have happened! 

This is a wonderful journey to be on. I am thankful for the support. We got married young and I was very young when I had my children….We didn’t know anyone who was having kids the same age as us, so we felt like we learned all about parenting with God alone as well as what we’re learning now. I am so thankful that now that the children are all mostly out of the house (1 left at home who is going to college locally) we are united and healed and on the same path!! I know we are going to enjoy these years together :) SMILE. However, I also know we have any enemy who would like to destroy what God has built. 

I was very type A and controlling (but I have already repented for that) and he is relatively passive ~ but he is growing, growing, growing! It is like a miracle before my eyes to see what God is accomplishing without my kicking and screaming on the frontline. IT IS AMAZING! A TRUE MIRACLE!! What else can I say, but Praise God! I cannot believe what my humbling myself and repenting has accomplished. More than anything I have tried to do by human effort in the past 30+ years.

AS A MOTHER:

Because my husband has a very meek spirit and he also has the gift of mercy, he was very gracious towards the kids’ “mistakes, sins, disobedient behaviors.” 

I was very militant with the kids, and lacked greatly in the mercy department. I was really strict and was always trying to keep control of everything and everybody. It hurt the kids to see me control their dad ~ they thought he was the best dad ever. But I was really tough on all of them too because I was so controlling. 

They did not feel loved by me. (Did you hear what I said??) 

Imagine your kids telling you that!! I was blind. All those years I thought I was a good mother. Then they sat me down and told me otherwise. I thought I was going to die of a broken heart. I was devastated. 

The truth is that the Bible advocates Mercy AND Truth. God always puts the two together. You can’t have Mercy and no truth, and you can’t have Truth with no mercy. Look up mercy and truth and you will see how God puts them together in His Word. I needed somebody like Debi Pearl to wake me up and show me what I wasn’t seeing. Her book did exactly that. And I am confident that that is the kind of book God ordained that I read because I needed that to wake me up. I experienced great conviction, as I said, and I repented. I apologized to everybody and now I am trusting God to heal all of our relationships. 

Slowly, He is doing that, and I am grateful. 

But I will go to my grave knowing I caused such pain and hurt to my precious babies. 

I am so so so thankful God got a hold of my heart through this book. He has changed my life. Praise God, my children have all forgiven me and we are now working on building new relationships with each other. I know they are shocked to see me so calm and so peaceful. It has given them hope. 

I know God will accomplish much in His timing. I should have relied more on God’s Word, strength, and Holy Spirit power when I was raising my kids. I was prideful; I thought I was doing great. I don’t recall ever asking God for His opinion. Yikes! It’s just nuts how you can think you are A-OK and then God shows you otherwise. It’s pretty humbling. But I praise God for His humbling me and showing me who I was and the hurt I was causing. I never want to act like that again… 

I am determined to continue to learn and grow and trust in God’s power and not my own. I am so dependent on God now and don’t trust in myself. 

I was so high-strung before because I was doing it all on my own. And now, I have God’s peace and He enables me and keeps me on track. It’s a night and day change in my life. 

ON HER REGRETS:

One area I feel I really negatively impacted the kids is in the area of discipline. What I would do differently now is submit to my husband’s choice or method of discipline for the kids. Resisting his authority in front of the kids by taking over was SO disrespectful!! 

For whatever reason, I always thought I was pretty good at it. Time has brought the truth to light that I wasn’t so good at it! 

I was too militant and harsh as a woman. I think it was a contradiction in itself to be a woman and be that way. It confused the kids. 

They really wanted their mom to have a meek and gentle spirit. They wanted me to submit to and respect their dad. They wanted to me speak few words. They wanted lots of hugs and encouraging words from me. I was too busy being in control of everybody to be a soft place for them. 

They needed mom to be softer and dad to have full control.

He also always disciplined in love, and he definitely had a lot more self control than I did. I could get pretty upset and emotional. I 100% believe now that the husband should make the decisions regarding this area of parenting. I just did which I thought was best.

I didn’t take my husband’s preference into consideration. (When this happens, the kids can see that the parents are not in agreement. That’s never a good thing either. It makes the kids feel insecure. They need to see their parents in agreement; and if the parents are not in agreement, they need to see the mother defer to the father.)

Not being respectful to my husband in other areas also really caused the kids some deep hurts. “No man can serve two masters.” The kids should not be torn between having to please both parents; and when they are not in agreement, that makes it very tough on the kids. God wired the kids to thrive in the environment that He ordained for the family.

 There is a chain of command that God set into place, and if we do not follow that, we will have problems and it will affect the children in negative ways.

Debi also said something that impacted me. She said that control and dominance are masculine traits and that a woman’s calling is to be submissive and yielding to her husband. I never lived like that and that was NOT a good testimony to my children…now that I am living according to God’s Word, I see the kids noticing and I hope they learn from what I am practicing now — not what I practiced when I was in rebellion to God and His Word. Unfortunately, I now only have one child left at home. Maybe I will be a better grandmother than a mother! 

I’m trusting in God’s goodness and mercy. I want Him to use all my mistakes for good, and I do know and understand that He can use all this for good if I use it for ministry to help other ladies. I want to be used by God to warn women that there is a day of reckoning and it just might be extremely painful. 

It doesn’t have to be that way. God can change us before it is too late.

ON HER HUSBAND: 

I can tell you for certain that God allowed our children to take on more of the character of their father, not me. They all love and adore their dad and are very similar to his personality and temperament. God graciously allowed them to learn to emulate him, not me. It is as though the Lord caused the children to retain what he taught and set by example and reject all the negative, unBiblical stuff I was doing. God put it in children’s hearts and minds that the father is meant to be the head of the household, and they seem to want to live that out whether or not the mother and wife applies it herself.

God honored my husband’s behavior and rejected mine.

AS A TITUS 2 ELDER:

I really only touched on circumstances when the kids were younger. Seems like most women here have younger kids, if any. I may be wrong, but I don’t get the impression that the majority of ladies have grown children, like me. A lot of people think I am the sister to my children. For which reason, the Lord allowed me to maintain a youthful appearance, so I still feel really, really young inside too! Today, I had to go to the hospital to have a procedure done on my spine. The anesthesiologist wanted to do a pregnancy test on me and I chuckled – “I’ve already gone through menopause!!” 

I don’t feel like an old lady speaking to younger women. I still feel very young and find it pretty hard thinking of myself as a woman in her early 50′s. But I definitely am an aged woman as I have raised my family from beginning to end. So, I’ve experienced the end result and know the full spectrum from sowing to reaping. 

I really hope my life experiences can help other women be the mothers God wants them to be. And HE can accomplish it in our lives if we simply submit to His principles with our children as we also diligently submit to the principles we are putting into place regarding our husbands. They really go hand in hand. To God be the glory for all He has accomplished in my life!

For some reason, however, it isn’t necessarily the pain of what hurt I caused my husband (although I deeply regret hurting him and it breaks my heart that I hurt him so much), but it is the pain I caused my children that hurts the most.

They were innocent and weren’t part of the dynamics of our marriage.

 You just absolutely cannot imagine how painful it can be to have your children tell you the hurts you caused them. 

Not sure the rest of my life is enough time for healing for that. I agree that you cannot have a testimony without having first had the trials. I’m not trying to make anybody feel bad about that… I just wish I had learned a lot sooner. But, I’m choosing not to lament over it because it isn’t the attitude God wants when He did so much to accomplish forgiveness for me.

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I hope this piece from a much older woman has given you a glimpse of what could very well be YOUR future if and when you continue with your controlling ways, dear sister in Christ. We want to spare you of that pain, of that disappointment, of that anguish over your own children telling you that they never felt LOVED by you, simply because you were too harsh and too domineering. :( 

It's not yet too late. You can ask God to change you right here, right now... Repent of your sins of disrespect and pride and self-righteousness.  

May 2013, a year ago today.

God's Design for Marriage seeks to free you from the bondage of worry and control. God is sovereign. He is in control. He is our Creator. All He asks of you is to trust in Him, by first submitting to Christ and then unto your husband. Can you do that, dear sister in Christ? If you are ready, He is ready for you too. :)


May we all be richly blessed! :)

The Dearth of Godly Women Mentors (The Titus 2 Women, Where Are They?!?!?)

There is a dearth of godly women mentors in the Philippines today. 

There is a dearth of godly women mentors in the whole world, period. :(

Day in and day out, we are inundated with worldly advice that promotes women "empowerment", raising "self-esteem", of seizing all of life's opportunities, and making the world one's "oyster". There is nothing inherently wrong or evil in any of those, I aver. It is wonderful to feel good about oneself and to achieve some level of success in this world. We were created to somehow make a difference in this planet, after all. 

But, when the "be-all and end-all" of existence is just to please 
ME, MYSELF and I, then that is where the problem lies.

We really never find ourselves and our true life purposes in our families, in our careers, in our churches, or in our very own selves; no matter what the world says. 

We are only able to find our true purpose when we know God and who we are, in connection to God. Then, we find more meaning in our lives by giving of ourselves fully in our relationships and affiliations.

- We know God; we get to know who we are. (We are sinners, in need of His Mercy.)

- We know God; we get to know why we are here. (To seek Him, serve Him, love Him.)

- We know God; we get to know where we are headed. (Eternal Life in Heaven)

It does not work like this:

- I land the job of my dreams, I find my "calling".

- I meet the man of my dreams, I find my "reason for being".

- I live in the country of my dreams, I find my "paradise".

That is foolish. :(

- Apart from God, and our relation to Him, we really do not "find ourselves".

- Apart from God and our relation to Him, we really cannot "find our purpose."

- Apart from God and our relation to Him, we will NEVER "find meaning in life."

It is with this thought process in mind that I go about with this post. 

I only found peace and joy in this season of my life, AFTER I found God, and let Him take control of all aspects in my life.

I found my authentic self, AFTER I got to know the Lord as Who He was/is, not What I thought He was/is, through the Bible.

I found my purpose/s in life AFTER I submitted unto the Lord.

 I found my purpose as a person, wife and mother AFTER I submitted to my husband, as unto the Lord.

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As a married woman with four young children, all under the age of ten, I wish I had known earlier what was really expected of me once I got married. :(

Whitney Houston in Cosmo

My "marriage peg" was not exactly godly nor biblical. It was something straight out of a Cosmo Magazine as a "Fun and Fearless Female", I guess. I was "taught" and raised to be extremely ambitious, career-driven, and self-reliant. I did not know that marriage was a partnership and that each spouse had God-given roles. I thought all along that it was "to each his own"; "You do your own thing, I do mine, then let's meet at the end of the day and exchange points." Well, that kind of mindset nearly destroyed my marriage. :(

I am glad the Lord convicted me of my sins and so, in September 1, 2013, I was "born again." (I am a Catholic Christian, by the way, and still am.:) I repented for my sins and surrendered my all to God. That same day too, I decided to submit unto my husband, Dong, and "kill" my controlling, domineering, self-righteous self.
Good riddance, really!

Two short weeks after submitting to Dong, I "chanced" upon April Cassidy's blog, The Peaceful Wife. That's a "divine appointment", right there! This further reinforced for me, that I was on the right track in my respect and Biblical submission journey. Since then, April has been a good friend and my Titus 2 mentor too, in this narrow path that we tread, along with other Peaceful wives, all over the world.

Why do we need a mentor?

Because we should not trust ourselves.

Proverbs 28:26

26 

"Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool,

    but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered."

We would need somebody that we can be accountable to, or who could correct us or even rebuke us, if necessary. Of course, it goes without saying that no mentor is infallible. Only God's Word is without error, and only God can really correct and straighten our paths, but it helps to have a godly human mentor too, walking with us in this journey.

I am 38 years, 129 days, 8 hours, 35 minutes, and 10 seconds old; as of the beginning of this post. For those reading this who are younger than me, this may prove to be an enlightening post. I am appointing myself as your Titus 2 "aged woman" mentor. :) (Note: I love being older!)

This is the reason I started this blog too, after my husband suggested I write a similar blog to April's, meant specifically for Filipinas all over the world (God's Word is for all races and nations though, and so everyone is welcome to read this.:) ). I wanted to mentor wives who were younger than me, so that they can learn from my mistakes and sins, and either not tread my wrong paths or encourage them to straighten theirs.

This is the Bible verse I follow:

Titus 2:3-5

“The  aged women likewise, that they be in behavior  as becometh holiness,  not  false  accusers,  not  given  to  much wine,  teachers  of  good  things;  

That  they  may teach  the young women  to  be sober,  to  love  their husbands,  to  love  their  children,  To  be  discreet,  chaste,  keepers at  home,  good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” 

For those wives older than me by a few or many years, this post may be taken from the point of view of a young woman who has some "wisdom" to share, through no merits of her own, but by God's Grace alone.

I share with you a Bible verse from the Book of Job, when Elihu, a much younger man, felt compelled to speak the Word of God, despite being young in stature, among elders:

Job 32:6-10

6 So Elihu son of Barakel the Buzite said:

“I am young in years,

    and you are old;

that is why I was fearful,

    not daring to tell you what I know.

7 

I thought, ‘Age should speak;

    advanced years should teach wisdom.’

8 

But it is the spirit[b] in a person,

    the breath of the Almighty, that gives them understanding.

9 

It is not only the old who are wise,

    not only the aged who understand what is right.

10 “Therefore I say: Listen to me;    I too will tell you what I know.

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What should we teach the younger ones then, before they get married or while being married? What should our own mothers, aunts, grandmothers or women elders have shared with us, before we got married?

To do these 8 things below, in order for God's Word 
to not be reviled or blasphemed:

1. to be sober
2. to  love our husbands
3. to  love our  children
4. to  be discreet/self-controlled
5. to be chaste/pure
6. to be keepers/to be busy/to be working ... at home
7. to be good
8. to be obedient to our own husbands

We do these 8 THINGS though, only after this important Bible verse: 

Ephesians 5:22-33

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

The order would be something like this:

1. God the Father (Who is Sovereign over all)
2. Jesus Christ (Who submitted to the Father)
3. Husband (Who submits to Christ)
4. Wife (Who submits to Christ first, then, to her husband)

Ultimately, both the husband and wife, 
submit FIRST to Jesus.

We do not immediately submit to our husbands, without first having submitted to God. Doing so, would be nothing short of idolatry! We do not just follow everything our husbands tell us to do, without having the right attitude and correct frame of mind and heart. We Biblically submit to our God-ordained authorities, our spouses, because we are following Christ's commandment for us to do so. We do not do all of the 8 things first, then conveniently put Christ in the picture after, when things are "not going well" in our marriage.

It is GOD first.

Our husbands come only a (not so near) second.

We submit to GOD first.

Then, we submit to our husbands, as unto the Lord.

If they become more loving husbands because of our submission, praise God!

If they continue to be detached and not so loving, in spite of our submission, praise God still!

Ultimately, no matter what the outcome, we do Biblical submission for Christ. Our eyes are set on God. We focus on our side of the equation and on our own God-given role as help meets, and we leave it to God to convict or transform our husbands' hearts. 

Focusing on the 8 THINGS alone will not make us have joy and peace. We can seem "perfect" and be all of those in our eyes and even in other people's eyes, but without Jesus, all those will still not be enough to experience true peace and joy. Those may even "enchain" us instead of "free" us. They can easily make us "legalistic", doing everything to the letter but not being transformed by God's Spirit, which makes all those "good actions" still seem empty.

Nothing and no one can occupy that God-filled void in our hearts except God Himself.

So what do we have to do then?

We do the 8 Titus THINGS the godly way:

1. To be sober (We do our best to moderate all our behavior, including not being addicted to wine or alcohol/spirits, and instead fill ourselves up with the Spirit as we read God's Word.)  
2. To  love our husbands (We love our imperfect husbands with the love of the Lord.)
3. To  love our  children (We love our very energetic and oftentimes naughty children, with the love of the Lord.)
4. To  be discreet/self-controlled (We ask God to take control of our lives, while we do our best to practice self-control on our sinful thoughts and behavior.)
5. To be chaste/pure (We do our best to hold every thought captive for Christ the moment a temptation crops up, so as not to sin.)
6. To be keepers/to be busy/to be working ... at home (We embrace our God-ordained roles within the home with much peace and joy, accepting it as God's Will for us that to take care of our families is our utmost priority, even to the point of having to give up a very busy career, if it goes against that priority.)
7. To be good (We try to be "perfect" as our heavenly Father is perfect, knowing all good comes from God, and all we have to show for is our sins.)
8. To be obedient to our own husbands (We respect and obey our God-ordained authorities not because they are always right or  perfect, but because we know that God will manifest His Will for us by directing us and our paths, through our errant husbands. The only time we can choose NOT to obey our husbands is when they are leading us to sin against God Himself. Then, we have to choose to obey God, and not Man, but we still do so respectfully. Acts 5:29)

Ultimately, we do all the 8 THINGS for the Lord, in order that His Word will not be maligned nor blasphemed.

Because, dear sisters, no matter how "spiritual" or "holy" or "religious" or "learned" about God we may be, if our home is in chaos, and we are disrespectful and unsubmissive to our husbands (like I was before!), we give God a really BAD REP. :( 

Good thing if it is only us whom we may put in a bad light, but if it is God's Word we are maligning, yikes! We are walking FALSE ADVERTISEMENTS. We are doing God a disservice!  They see us and our "good works", but they DON'T see God. :(

Who is mentoring you, dear sister? 

Is it your mother, your close friend, your neighbor? Is it Oprah or Dr. Phil?!? (Note: I loved Oprah growing up. I still do.  But I do not anymore consider her words as gospel truth.;) Maybe it is time to reassess just how their pieces of advice are molding you to become the person, wife, or mother that you are now. Is it making your marriage better or making it break apart? Is their advice worldly or is what they say, based on God's Word? 

Do you believe in Oprah's quote?
How about Matthew 16:26's "For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul?
Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?" Which one is more true for you?

If we profess ourselves to be Christians, we have to follow Christ and His Word. Not some new age guru. Not some popular TV talk show host. 
And definitely, not some blogger like me!!! 

Ultimately, it is between you and God. People like me or my own mentor, April, share what we've learned in blog sites such as these, so that we can help you realize that you are not alone. That we hear you. That we know where you are coming from. But that's just about it. 

What I would like to do though is to POINT YOU TO CHRIST. You have no need for me!!! You can forget about me the moment you finish this post! Don't worry, I won't feel insulted or offended one bit. :) You have no need for my counsel or "wisdom".   All you need is Jesus and His Wisdom. But, if posts such as these, allow you to waken up that hidden longing for God, then, this little ministry of mine, would not have been in vain. Praise God for that! :)

As always, though, my prayer is that: 
I decrease in order for God to increase. 
All errors, mistakes, imperfections are mine. 
All Wisdom, Knowledge, Inspiration are God's.

Sirach 10:26

"Do not feel proud when you have only accomplished your work."

Luke 17:10

So you also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, 'We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.'"

Are you in need of a Titus 2 elder, dear sister? Look for one now. It is lovely to have someone to mentor you in this seemingly archaic path.

If you are already a godly older woman who could mentor and share so much wisdom with the younger ones, do so now, dear sister in Christ. Do not hold it in! The world needs more of YOU! :)

May we all be richly blessed! :)