|Why is that when they get 'Oscar', they lose their husbands?|
Let's go showbiz. Hollywood-style :)
Do you know that there is such a thing as the OSCAR LOVE CURSE? Based on Wikipedia's definition, the Oscar Love Curse "is a superstition that the woman who wins the Academy Award for Best Actress, will have her boyfriend or husband cheat on her or divorce her soon after. It has also been applied to the Best Supporting Actress."
|Reese Witherspoon with Ryan Philippe|
Reese Witherspoon, who won the award for 'Walk the Line' in 2006, divorced Ryan Philippe after
more than seven years of marriage, a year after she won the Oscar. Witherspoon filed for divorce from her husband on November 8, 2006, citing "irreconcilable differences" as the cause.
|Hilary Swank and Chad Lowe|
According to Mail Online, female winners of the coveted prize are 63% more likely to have a shorter marriage than those who don't win the famous award.
|Kate Winslet with Sam Mendes|
In 2009, it was Kate Winslet who won the Academy Award for 'The Reader' and despite appearing very close to her husband, English stage and film director Sam Mendes during that time, they got divorced a year after.
|Sanda Bullock with Jesse James|
"Of the 266 married women who have been nominated for the Best Actress award from the beginning of the modern Oscars in 1936 to the present, 159 of them got divorced, or 60 per cent.
Winners of the gong are 1.68 times more likely to head to the divorce court than losers. " - Mail Online
|Halle Berry was the first black woman to win an Oscar - 'Monster's Ball, 2002. Shown here with singer-songwriter, ex-hubby Eric Benet. They separated three years after she won the Oscar.|
From Mail Online 's article early this year, researcher Tiziana Casciaro from the University of Toronto said that the sudden elevation in fame could play a part in the increased divorce rate.
"Winning an Oscar can be construed as a big jump in professional status that an actress has in their world and in the eyes of the broader audience,' said Casciaro. The general social norm, kind of requires a man to have higher professional and economic status over the wife. So whenever that social norm is violated, both husband and wife may feel discomfort..."
Shockingly, studies have shown that there is virtually no change in the status of married men.Their marriages are NOT threatened.
|Tom Hanks has been nominated 5 times and has won TWO Oscars. With him in picture is his wife Rita Wilson. Incidentally, they are celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary as I write this blog post. He said in The Ellen de Generes Show that, "I'm not one to suck up to the audience, but the only thing we ever argue about is who loves each other more…"|
Aaaaaaw, how sweet!!! Don't you just find Tom and Rita so cute? :)
Lest you think you are in a showbiz blog, let me connect that with the content of our PeacefulwifePhilippines blog now...
- Marriages of men who have won the Oscar are NOT THREATENED by the elevation of their career or social status.
- Marriages of women who have won the coveted award ARE THREATENED BIG-TIME and more than half of their marriages ended up in DIVORCE.
As I was starting on my submissive journey in August of this year (2013), I bookmarked the list of actresses whose marriages ended in bitter divorce disputes after they won the Academy Awards Best Actress/Supporting Actress trophies. I said to myself, "Something is in here that cannot be attributed to a mere coincidence or superstitious belief." American showbiz writers call it the "Oscar love curse". I think it is still Eve's Curse leveled up and repackaged in the modern times.
in pain you shall bring forth children.
Your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you.”
3:16 Sinabi niya sa babae, Pararamihin kong lubha ang iyong kalumbayan at ang iyong paglilihi; manganganak kang may kahirapan; at sa iyong asawa ay pahihinuhod ang iyong kalooban, at siya'y papapanginoon sa iyo.
(Italics are mine.)
I have four children delivered normally each time, so I know by experience that childbirth IS PAINFUL. I will expound on that curse in future posts but for now, in line with the 'Oscar Curse', I want to focus on the second curse that I italicized: "Your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you.”This verse causes some confusion in that, desiring one's husband is not necessarily a bad thing or a curse, right?
|Super pregnant with our second child, Andre - 2007|
Not to go into semantics for I am neither a Bible scholar nor a learned Bible reader, (I am Catholic and I've only started reading His Word daily at the start of my submissive journey, give or take 3 months, and I am enamored by the wealth of wisdom in its pages! Just to add, Catholics ARE Christians. We just don't read the Bible as much. Fellow Catholic wives, you are missing a lot!!!) so I will just quote what the site, Got Questions (on the Bible) answered regarding this particular question:
How is a woman's desire for her husband a CURSE?
|A Man Who Wears PINK they say is confident in his sexuality. ;)|
God is saying that Eve would desire to rule over her husband, but her husband would instead rule over her. Replacing the mutually interdependent relationship the Lord had created was a desire for one spouse to lead the other. Sin had wrought discord. The battle of the sexes had begun. Both man and woman would now seek the upper hand in marriage. The man who was to lovingly care for and nurture his wife would now seek to rule her, and the wife would desire to wrest control from her husband.
It is important to note that this judgment only states what will take place. God says that man and woman will live in conflict and their relationship will become problematic. The statement “he shall rule over you” is not a biblical command for men to dominate women. "
|A Wedding Cake Topper - Yikes!|
P.S. As of April 2014, Gwyneth and husband Chris Martin are already divorced or in their euphemistic term, "uncoupled." The "Curse" continues?