Despite the fact that I had my script down pat, I have come to realize that I really haven't lived it in my own life. In fact, I think it was just all TALK on my part, and not much WALK, if you know what I mean.
|A Wedding Reception Hosting Vegas-style, Feb 2008|
I will attempt to write here one by one the Filipino wedding customs and traditions:
Prior to the wedding, there is the "pamamanhikan" or when the soon to be groom goes to the soon to be bride's home to ask for her hand in marriage from the woman's parents. He usually goes there with his whole family. This is to formalize the marriage proposal.
|With my younger sister Erica and my Papa, the late Atty. Butch Cleofe|
After accepting the proposal, both parties discuss the wedding arrangements and other details. It is usual for the groom’s family to shoulder the expenses, but in these modern times, the bride often agrees to pay for part of the cost. (Actually, more often than not, nowadays, it is the bride and groom who pay for the whole wedding without much help from their parents.)
|The Alejars including actors Jojo and Toby Alejar, my husband's older brothers|
Afterwards, the bride’s family holds a despedida de soltera as she bids goodbye to singlehood, while the groom may hold a bachelor’s or stag party. (Dong and I had none of this although we underwent the "pamamanhikan" part. He asked for my father's permission to marry me. My mother passed away when I was just 17, so it was only my Papa then whom he asked permission from. Papa died 6 years after that.)
|My big Salvador Clan (I was formerly Veronica Salvador Cleofe.)|
I will get some more info from this site http://weddingsinthephilippines.com/filipino-wedding-traditions/ and add some of my own info. :) Mine would be in parenthesis.
Here are some of the wedding symbols of Filipino weddings...
- The bride’s gown is white or a shaded variation such as ecru, while the groom usually wears a barong tagalog over a pair of black slacks. (White also symbolizes purity or virginity.)
- In selecting the members of the entourage, the couple usually considers one or several pairs of principal sponsors or godparents - "ninong and ninang" to serve as the primary witnesses of the wedding ceremony. Ideally, some of them may be the couple’s baptismal godparents. They are people whom the couple admire and respect and expect guidance from.
|"Ninangs" ChiChi Robles, Aida Geronimo, Vizmalau Bonalos. "Ninongs" Nene Pimentel and Dick Trofeo|
|With the Flower Girls, Ring and Bible Bearer (my nieces and nephews.:))|
|With our Secondary Sponsors|
|Unity Candle to Signify Oneness|
|Kris Baang my cousin and Gino Alejar, Dong's older brother affix the veil|
|Dong's older brother Paolo Alejar and my cousin-in-law Pinkie Geronimo affix the cord|
|Arrhae symbolizing husband's provider role in the marriage|
- The ring’s circular shape stands for eternity. It is usually engraved with the couple’s names and the wedding date. Sometimes, these are replaced with a short phrase that is meaningful to them. Some couples prefer slipping their wedding rings on the left middle finger, which is said to be connected to an artery that leads straight to the heart. Others keep with the Roman tradition of putting it on their right ring finger. Regardless of which hand is used, the exchange of rings highlights the fact that marriage is a covenant between God and the couple, and the sacrament itself is a show of everlasting commitment between the couple.
With the richness of the symbolism of all the Filipino wedding traditions and customs, it is my prayer that all Filipino marriages here and around the world (as well as the non-Filipino marriages all over the world!) will imbibe and live in their daily lives, the Grand Design of God for Marriage, whatever nationality or color.
2:22 At ang tadyang na kinuha ng Panginoong Dios sa lalake ay ginawang isang babae, at ito'y dinala niya sa lalake.
2:23 At sinabi ng lalake, Ito nga'y buto ng aking mga buto at laman ng aking laman: siya'y tatawaging Babae, sapagka't sa Lalake siya kinuha.
2:24 Kaya't iiwan ng lalake ang kaniyang ama at ang kaniyang ina, at makikipisan sa kaniyang asawa: at sila'y magiging isang laman.
2:25 At sila'y kapuwa hubad, ang lalake at ang kaniyang asawa, at sila'y hindi nagkakahiyaan
|This was our "first kiss" after he proposed to me. :) We opted not to kiss from January 27, 2004 (proposal) to April 17, 2004 (wedding day) to make it sweeter. :) Priest said it was the sweetest kiss he has ever witnessed. :)|