|"Ito Ang Balita" - UNTV, 2012|
|I sang "Super Bass" - Araneta, 2012|
Whenever I would get a bad cold or cough, I would absent myself for days and it would worry me no end thinking that my "golden voice" might never come back ever again! When I was down with a bad case of laryngitis, all I could do was write down instructions or simple things I wanted to say on paper, because whispering strained the inflamed vocal chords more than a serious attempt at hoarse speaking. (It's a myth that to "conserve" your voice, you must whisper. This does more harm than good.)
|Mommy Nikka pregnant with 4th with our 3 kids - 2012|
Does respecting one's husband mean a wife can no longer say what she thinks or feels? Does submitting to one's spouse mean a wife can no longer voice out her opinions, suggestions and comments? Does relinquishing control of the marriage and of one's husband mean a wife will also lose her say in the home? Does Biblical submission mean losing one's voice?!?
- Because he feels respected, the husband feels more love for his wife and asks her opinions on important matters...
- Because she feels loved and appreciated, the wife tells her husband what's in her heart but leaves it to her husband to make the final decision...
- Because the husband knows his wife has full trust and confidence in him, he will decide only after careful consideration on what would be best for her and their family, and not based on selfish interests...
|The "Crazy Cycle"|
|Submissive Nikka with respected Dong- 2014|
Since I started "respecting" and "submitting" to my husband Dong, not only have I experienced much peace and joy, but he too is happier and more loving towards me.(Minus all that negativity, I am easier to love now, I guess. :) We have always been best friends but being just that, I thought that if he was not stepping up the plate, then I should. After all, that's what friends do, right? Cover each other's back if and when the other falters? But not so much with marriage, as I have seen for myself. More than being best friends, we were husband and wife. We were not just "friends". We were not just "friends with benefits" either. We were ONE. He was my better half and I was his. (I was more like his bitter half!)
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
|Best friends eating Mega Ice Cream :) - 2009|
When I submitted to God fully on September 1, 2013 was when I also submitted to my God-ordained authority, Dong. As my husband, he was my protector and leader. As his wife, I was his helper and follower. We are still best friends now (and till death will we be) but knowing now my rightful place in the home based on God's Design for Marriage, our very tight-knit friendship has become an even more fulfilling relationship. With all eyes focused on Christ and in following Him, this new level of intimacy and peace we are experiencing is but icing on the cake. Just pleasing God alone is more than enough!
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
In fact, I found my most authentic self, am now the best version of my personality every
|With our two "bunsos" or youngest boy and girl - Dec 2013|
And what is even better is that aside from never having lost my voice in family matters, I have now begun to again hear God's Voice. It was sooooooo hard to hear Him when I was too busy "nagging" Him before to change Dong! :(
Now, I am filled with Christ's Peace and through constant communication with Him through His Word and through silence, I am now able to drown out all noise and sounds and listen to His Voice alone.
|Mr. and Mrs. Dong Alejar - 4/17/04|
Biblical submission is the richest secret to a happy
and loving marriage. "Do" it dear sisters in Christ!
A hoarse SHOUTOUT to wives who are now in the same boat as I was: Biblical submission is wonderful. You have to try it to believe it. It really pays to follow God's Design for Marriage. :)
P.S. Here's a video of a jamming session I had with Minyong in Feb 2012 -- "Firework" by Katy Perry. This song was apt for my "fulfilled dreams year" in 2012. Now though, it's not about "me, myself and I" anymore. That part is over. It's all about Him now. He is the One "brighter than the moon". He is the True Light. :)