tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post8070833712869577472..comments2024-02-12T13:09:27.310+08:00Comments on Peacefulwife Philippines' Blog: The Joy Of God's Design For Filipina Wives in Marriage : The Bondage of People-PleasingPeacefulwife Philippineshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03515930951061217503noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post-65103426560107418962014-05-21T18:58:05.159+08:002014-05-21T18:58:05.159+08:00Yes, I believe so too. Actually, part of being fre...Yes, I believe so too. Actually, part of being freed from the bondage of people pleasing is allowing people to correct you with no discrimination of person/s. I allow anybody to correct me or let me know I am doing wrong... It doesn't matter who it comes from. But of course, it's always done with a great examination of conscience lest the "corrections" be no more than just accusations or judgments/misjudgments.<br /><br />I do have some godly people I respect whom I seek counsel and correction from.<br /><br />Thanks for the comment! Worth pondering about!Peacefulwife Philippineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515930951061217503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post-26678534905205717182014-05-21T17:06:43.938+08:002014-05-21T17:06:43.938+08:00I think though it is helpful to have a handful (ma...I think though it is helpful to have a handful (maybe 2-5) of people whom you can count on to correct you if needed. We have accountability partners from our church and we are open to correction from these people. They know our life stories and they also know our struggles and "roots." So it helps to confess our sins to them. Likewise, we correct our friends when needed as long as the Bible is the basis. Some people do have your best interest at heart. You need to pray and discern who they are. Erica is Richhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03140547419145815335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post-40085882885681105792014-05-20T14:39:04.454+08:002014-05-20T14:39:04.454+08:00No offense taken. :) It's ridiculous, crazy, f...No offense taken. :) It's ridiculous, crazy, foolish, and a total waste of time!!! :)<br /><br /> I still battle with the temptation sometimes (old habits do die hard) but it's so "cool" to hold thoughts captive for Jesus. Those crazy thoughts dissipate quite fast after that! :) Peacefulwife Philippineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515930951061217503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post-83924312260637342902014-05-20T12:45:57.847+08:002014-05-20T12:45:57.847+08:00You were brutally honest about your people pleasin...You were brutally honest about your people pleasing (or people fearing) thoughts. It was funny because I could relate and see how ridiculous (no offense--referring to my own thoughts here!) that kind of thinking, once verbalized, actually is!Genienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post-81295530533726985882014-05-19T17:24:31.036+08:002014-05-19T17:24:31.036+08:00Glad I made you laugh. That laugh is usually the &...Glad I made you laugh. That laugh is usually the "Oh dear me" laugh, the one wherein you slap your forehead and say, "That is correct! What was I thinking?!?!?!" :)Peacefulwife Philippineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515930951061217503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post-31322101751233197782014-05-19T17:17:03.380+08:002014-05-19T17:17:03.380+08:00Hi Genie!!! :)
Thanks for the comment here and th...Hi Genie!!! :)<br /><br />Thanks for the comment here and the email as well. :) <br /><br />Yes, who'd have thunk people pleasing was idolatry right? I mean, it's "selfless" and "thoughtful"... Well, it is an IDOL, and I am glad you saw it for what it was now. :) <br /><br />I think my bondage with CONTROL went hand in hand with this bondage of people pleasing. I controlled events and my husband, in order to hush up people whom I wanted to please. No matter that they probably do not care about it that much, or if they did, well... so what? :) <br /><br />Yes, please rip that idol out because at the very root, it really is idolatry of self still. The need to be validated by what other people think.<br /><br />Regarding Debi's book, I believe it appeals to different people. :) The Spirit touches people using different authors, styles, language,... and I believe though this book is quite controversial (I was not left unscathed when I wrote that review. Some avid readers thought my review to be harsh to Ms. Pearl.), it really has snippets of godly wisdom too. No book and no author is infallible and so, I think this could help somebody, but not everybody. :)<br /><br />Sarah is an enigma to me. But God blessed them greatly, so we really have to trust in God to lead us accordingly. There's no one size fits all in Biblical submission as well. <br /><br />Thanks for dropping a line, Genie! I appreciate it! :)<br /><br />Nikka<br /><br /> Peacefulwife Philippineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515930951061217503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8235622512312451953.post-26115925932536743862014-05-19T14:04:21.260+08:002014-05-19T14:04:21.260+08:00Hi Nikka! I really appreciated this post and I la...Hi Nikka! I really appreciated this post and I laughed a lot, too. I don't think you were trying to be funny but it just felt too familiar. People pleasing has been extremely stressful for me and I didn't see it as an idol that needs to be destroyed until I read your post. I want to rip it out by its roots now! Another terrible aspect of people pleasing is resentment towards those you are trying to please!! I have been realizing this recently so your post was timely. <br /><br />I liked your review of Debi Pearl's book, too. I have found the book more helpful than any other book but at the same time I hesitate to recommend to other friends because it's been negatively reviewed by some reputable Christians. I think her controversial points have to do with abuse in marriage. I do think a lot about Sarah in the bible. If asking your wife to lie and exposing her to the whims of pagan men is not abuse, I don't know what is. And yet, Sarah trusted God and still submitted to her husband. It's difficult to accept and I do not say this callously at all but I think the principle is that we can trust God even in difficult circumstances?<br /><br />Well, just wanted to say that I've really appreciated your posts!!Genienoreply@blogger.com